I work with doctors, so I’m familiar with the concept of standing orders. If certain conditions are met, doctors have a pre-authorized order to give a certain medication or initiate a treatment so that nurses or mid-levels don’t always have to run to a physician for permission every single time. In my house, we also have certain standing orders. For example, consider the following questions:
May I have a peach? Yes
May I go to bed early? You must be sick. Dear gracious yes.
May I read another book? I’m a sucker for this. Usually yes, even though I’m so freaking tired, because this next book may just determine whether you serve burgers or stitch up hearts and might just unlock the keys to how your brain processes letters and the firing of the neurons is such a sensitive process and if The Big Fish is the book to help aid in your very future, what choice do I have, really?
More cottage cheese? Yes. You’re a weird kid for liking this.
Can I watch a show? I’m stirring cornbread mix and I’m on the phone with my best friend debating how much is too much to pay for a birthday cake with a shark bursting out of the top and I’m trying to figure out if the oven is preheated and I think someone from work is calling which must be an emergency at this hour so I just generally nod so you’ll go away.
Can I watch another show? What? You watched one? When did I say that was okay?
May I have a banana? Yes. Please assume all fruit is okay.
May I have fruit snacks? That’s not fruit, you sneaky devil.
Can I listen to Adele? Always.
May I dance? If you didn’t, I would worry.
May I make up silly songs? You’re making me stutter with all the yes.
Will you go in time out? I should, kiddo. Sometimes I really should.
So basically in my house you can always dance, sing, listen to Adele, eat fruit, read, and eat cottage cheese. It could be worse. Better with fruit snacks, sure, but maybe you can catch me super busy and squeeze in freebies. And if I’m all alone sitting on the front porch drinking wine, just assume mom’s in a time out and go about your business, eating bananas with wild abandon.